Updated: Feb 20, 2021
How many times have you said this year I am going to do things differently. This birthday I am going to complete my goals and live life for me. This relationship I will do things differently. With this financial increase I'll save or spend differently. This is the idea, vision or dreams we all seem to set forth.. unfortunately things don't always seem to play out how we expect it. I remember I would often reflect on how I did things on a job.. I shared to much of my personal information or I engaged in sex to quickly with Mr. Wrong. I did not save as I should have and the increase I have doesn't even account to what I should be seeing in my bank account.
I have often set goals for myself realistic ones and I really for all intensive purposes want to follow the goals I set but for some reason or another it doesn't work out.. I realized that after making the same bad choices over and over again that I needed to shake things up and change my pattern. I started to journal and constantly remind myself of my goals. I also would make a habit of writing a petition to God and my closets friends so that I could have accountability partners. I reminded myself of how things were when I did the same old behaviors. I thought about the heartache I felt with Mr. Wrong or even feeling foolish when I could not spend as freely as I wanted to event with the increase. I took the time to rewrite my story. How do I want to feel with the choices I made. I was tired of being stressed out and worried. I was through with feeling humiliated.
I desired change. I created healthy boundaries for myself. I compartmentalized who was able to have important information about me. I started to consider my body as a valuable temple and I paced myself with who I chose to engage with and I reminded myself that I was worth the damn wait. I made myself discover the woman I wanted to be and decided that is what I wanted the world to see. I encourage you to take inventory of where you are in life. Are you still repeating the same mistakes and getting the same results? What do you want to change about you? What are you willing to share with people and what should be off limits? Shake up things a bit and mark my word you will feel better about your new found results.